tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post4023216712644670395..comments2023-10-11T05:56:39.016-06:00Comments on Mayberry Mom: ToothfullyMayberryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14342826784650208124noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-16168646740175268182007-06-29T14:56:00.000-06:002007-06-29T14:56:00.000-06:00Ah, yes... We are currently between biting/bitee s...Ah, yes... We are currently between biting/bitee sessions. S. was the frequent victim (she literally followed the biter around until he finally struck), and L. alternated with alarming frequency. It IS easier to get the 'your child was bitten' report than the 'your child is vicious and had the nerve to chomp on someone else's beautiful darling' report.Mrs. Wheezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13824483210130539974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-33113875211410544882007-06-21T20:52:00.000-06:002007-06-21T20:52:00.000-06:00Echoing pp to say that I hope the situation is res...Echoing pp to say that I hope the situation is resolved soon. <BR/><BR/>We had the same situation, with Jet being the bitee. I remember being so frustrated ... until I got a report that Jet purposely hit another kid. <BR/><BR/>Aside from talking to him quite sternly and having him color an "I'm sorry" picture for the other kid and his teacher, there wasn't much I could do. I hated that feeling of helplessness and realized that the other parent probably felt the same way when their kid was biting.<BR/><BR/>Still, though, it's not right.Damselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03419317332180706725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-87590096629686021692007-06-20T11:21:00.000-06:002007-06-20T11:21:00.000-06:00I thought about this all night and then was going ...I thought about this all night and then was going to say, walking away is not ostracizing. But I see I'm too late to the party!<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I'm sending a bunch of sympathy your way. My son had repeated run-ins with another kid at daycare, but now they're best friends. So, so.Jennifer (ponderosa)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17712875613623664156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-86909441121935064132007-06-20T10:03:00.000-06:002007-06-20T10:03:00.000-06:00Poor Opie. Sounds like he's just playing monkey se...Poor Opie. Sounds like he's just playing monkey see monkey do, not that that makes it right. <BR/><BR/>I was a biter, I think beyond the year when it was age appropriate - I was three/four. There was no talk of feelings though, my great grandmother just washed my mouth out with soap a few times.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-14972166082222304402007-06-19T16:37:00.000-06:002007-06-19T16:37:00.000-06:00I should write ouch reports for all the times my s...I should write ouch reports for all the times my son bites me!kiridahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13124659092594167420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-18398322327731109662007-06-19T10:03:00.000-06:002007-06-19T10:03:00.000-06:00My child started in daycare at the beginning of a ...My child started in daycare at the beginning of a month. Almost immediately, she started coming home with bite marks (and I got the accident reports to sign). By the end of the month, that kid was gone.<BR/><BR/>But then, another kid started biting - but I think just biting mine. But these two are like siblings - love/hate/love/hate. And mine would come home and say, matter-of-factly, "Sarah bit me" when I asked what she'd done that day. And then it changed to "Sarah didn't bit me". And then one day, she and Sarah were in a tussle about a toy, and mine said to Sarah "go ahead, bite me." Sarah, to her credit, didn't take her up on it.<BR/><BR/>Long way around - I'm sorry about the biting, and I hope the daycare helps work through the problem.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-23841882485894303372007-06-19T07:13:00.000-06:002007-06-19T07:13:00.000-06:00I feel the same way about the "ouch reports" (new ...I feel the same way about the "ouch reports" (new term, though - love it!) - I always think it's worse to hear that your kid is the perp. I wonder what the demographics are on that preference, though? Because I've read things that make me think a lot of parents are the other way around: it's more important to them that their children be assertive and even dominant.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-2931202299926747622007-06-19T07:05:00.000-06:002007-06-19T07:05:00.000-06:00My hubs and I were just talking about this. He was...My hubs and I were just talking about this. He was an elementary school teacher for nine years, and he said biting is, above all, the worst offense. He said even the other kids eventually ostracize the biter.<BR/><BR/>The kids realize biting is over the line.<BR/><BR/>Poor Opie! Can he be blamed for fighting back?Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342425698876916791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-2867004244573419152007-06-19T02:07:00.000-06:002007-06-19T02:07:00.000-06:00When Q is teething, he will occasionally bite. Fo...When Q is teething, he will occasionally bite. Fortunately, he's not subtle yet. There's this big dramatic head rearing, giving you a chance to catch his head and find a chew toy. Looking forward to when the biting thing is past. ;)Lady Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13360693450146358247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-57489159877957639142007-06-18T21:34:00.000-06:002007-06-18T21:34:00.000-06:00ah...i have the same feelings about incident repor...ah...i have the same feelings about incident reports...we want them not to be hurt, but also not to hurt.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-69282400137703589222007-06-18T20:11:00.000-06:002007-06-18T20:11:00.000-06:00I agree -- it's not ostracizing. It's a healthy co...I agree -- it's not ostracizing. It's a healthy coping technique!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17358441701832129130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-17715143549392216002007-06-18T19:05:00.000-06:002007-06-18T19:05:00.000-06:00Listen. My oldest had trouble with this one kid. I...Listen. My oldest had trouble with this one kid. I tried it ALL. The teacher tried. We both tried talking to the mom, who heard nothing.<BR/><BR/>Ultimately, I taught my daughter a lesson: walk away.<BR/><BR/>It's not ostracizing.<BR/><BR/>She tried talking, using her words. I taught her okay ways to walk away, "I prefer to play over there right now. Bye." <BR/><BR/>The bottom line is that I am super sensitive about my kids thinking they need to be hurt in order to not hurt someone else. Long story.<BR/><BR/>So...if you've tried all the "right" things...walk away with dignity and politeness.<BR/><BR/>I've watched it in action. She's awesome.<BR/><BR/>Of course, this all started at 4, which is much older.<BR/><BR/>The 2 yo has a biter she knows. I taught her to say, "No bite me, bite THIS!" and hand over an okay mouth toy. It did cut it back.<BR/><BR/>GL...I feel for you. I do.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-82998962890467531072007-06-18T17:45:00.000-06:002007-06-18T17:45:00.000-06:00Aw...I think it's natural to not want your kid to ...Aw...I think it's natural to not want your kid to come home covered in bruises. Steering clear does not equal ostracizing.<BR/><BR/>Here's hoping BB gets past this stage soon.Julie Marshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386446012443269817noreply@blogger.com