tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post4616147547727847834..comments2023-10-11T05:56:39.016-06:00Comments on Mayberry Mom: Pink, blue, and very, very greenMayberryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14342826784650208124noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-86683494858928276082007-08-28T16:19:00.000-06:002007-08-28T16:19:00.000-06:00I completely understand your feelings - I have 2 h...I completely understand your feelings - I have 2 healthy wonderful children and for 2 years have been having fertility issues trying for that 3rd baby. Fortunately, I have a supportive husband, but some days it doesn't make it any easier.<BR/><BR/>Here from Mama DramaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-1271859418635253862007-08-14T10:23:00.000-06:002007-08-14T10:23:00.000-06:00I SO understand!! I think about it every day!I kn...I SO understand!! I think about it every day!<BR/><BR/>I know Bethany is a miracle -- I wasn't supposed to be able to have her -- but if God can do one miracle, can't He do another? Am I asking too much?<BR/><BR/>Matthew says we should just count our blessings. He's right. <BR/><BR/>That doesn't stop me from feeling like someone is missing from our family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-89191415080851367412007-07-25T15:28:00.000-06:002007-07-25T15:28:00.000-06:00Hugs.I was in your shoes 6 months ago. It was no f...Hugs.<BR/><BR/>I was in your shoes 6 months ago. It was no fun...Mrs. Wheezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13824483210130539974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-85915994987641131082007-07-23T14:17:00.000-06:002007-07-23T14:17:00.000-06:00A couple of years ago, PunditGirl was about 4 and ...A couple of years ago, PunditGirl was about 4 and I had the worst bout of mid-life hormines. I was adamant -- I wanted to adopt another child. But Mr. PunditMom has two from his first marriage, so PG is number 3 for him. He told me I needed to let the feeling pass. It did, and I'm OK with that now. But it's a conflict I never thought I would have.PunditMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919969826505761593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-75264159849734965082007-07-23T05:48:00.000-06:002007-07-23T05:48:00.000-06:00It's been almost 2years since my delivery-room mom...It's been almost 2years since my delivery-room moment..and i would love to add one more tot in the house too..<BR/><BR/>btw, got a cool blog here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-22390646881594579022007-07-22T23:13:00.000-06:002007-07-22T23:13:00.000-06:00I know what you mean hon. Only we aren't done but ...I know what you mean hon. Only we aren't done but we'd love one more. Just ONE more....Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08527762200993175239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-67651081422827272832007-07-22T19:31:00.000-06:002007-07-22T19:31:00.000-06:00I hear you... I'm not even sure if we're "done" ha...I hear you... I'm not even sure if we're "done" having kids yet, but I already feel the envy whenever I hear of a new pgcy or baby. I wonder if we'll ever have another one and, in my great ability to find the negative in everything, am already assuming the worst. Is there any chance you'll have an "oopsy?" ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-56423725806806509942007-07-21T11:16:00.000-06:002007-07-21T11:16:00.000-06:00As someone who knows reproduction isn't and hasn't...As someone who knows reproduction isn't and hasn't ever been really a "choice" for me...who fought hard for the two I have, and right when we thought "yeah, maybe a third" we got devastating health news for me that said "all finished, the end"...yeah I do do, I do so totally understand how you feel.<BR/><BR/>And I totally understand that the sad you feel for you has nothing to do with the happy you feel for Julie.<BR/><BR/>Unless you are really petty like me and have to avoid pregnancy blogs for a while, every now and again...<BR/><BR/>(HUGS) of understanding to you.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-20524830327978912652007-07-20T22:38:00.000-06:002007-07-20T22:38:00.000-06:00One word: Hugs.One word: Hugs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16486438725653025356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-10036323847229021602007-07-20T20:03:00.000-06:002007-07-20T20:03:00.000-06:00Thank you for putting my feelings into words. My ...Thank you for putting my feelings into words. My husband just had his vasectomy done last week, and I am heartbroken over it. The sad thing is, I feel this way after NINE children. He is Daddy to five of my children, and like your husband, is completely done having children.<BR/><BR/>I hope you find peace.Roxannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14791601142684469232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-84969958839258277952007-07-19T23:08:00.000-06:002007-07-19T23:08:00.000-06:00Lots of hugs--I wish I could say something of comf...Lots of hugs--I wish I could say something of comfort. Having children is the most personal and gripping decision a woman faces in my opinion. I wish I had more too actually--Scribbithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03178711182424809035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-23132939302915893772007-07-19T20:14:00.000-06:002007-07-19T20:14:00.000-06:00oh, sister. bittersweet and ouchy.oh, sister. bittersweet and ouchy.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-47849350057534692312007-07-19T17:24:00.000-06:002007-07-19T17:24:00.000-06:00er...that should be it wouldn't be fair of me not ...er...that should be it wouldn't be fair of me not to have the talk before I was married.Mailynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08268088979512386316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-88482635527012788262007-07-19T17:20:00.000-06:002007-07-19T17:20:00.000-06:00My father is the same way. My mom got rid of him f...My father is the same way. My mom got rid of him finally after 27 years and she's happier than she's ever been. Not that that's everyone thing. Just saying. Of course he did have other issues but she was just sick and tired of doing things his way.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry he feels that way. I know parenting is a hard thing but it shouldn't be based on one of the two not wanting any more kids if the other person is really hurting with the decision, as you obviously are.<BR/><BR/>That's just mean of him. :-(<BR/><BR/>I hope he comes around. Or that you find that having grandkids [even if it's way off] may be just as much fun.<BR/><BR/>Oh and this coming from someone who doesn't have/care to have children. So, I understand where your hubby is coming from but I think it would be unfair of me to have this talk with my hubby BEFORE I marry him. It's only fair to warn people of what you may or may not expect in this department so there is no heartbreak later.<BR/><BR/>I seriously hope you fel better soon.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*Mailynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08268088979512386316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-57028731370707180902007-07-19T17:05:00.000-06:002007-07-19T17:05:00.000-06:00I'm mixed up, too. I'd love to have three. Love it...I'm mixed up, too. I'd love to have three. Love it. But, we started late (on purpose) and this newest pregnancy has shown us that another on in a year or three would absolutely kill us. <BR/><BR/>It's hard. But, it's the life we chose. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-78516394781086495832007-07-19T15:23:00.000-06:002007-07-19T15:23:00.000-06:00Aw. I hear ya. I have only one child, and even tho...Aw. I hear ya. I have only one child, and even though my husband and I would like another child, I worry: what if we can't have another? what if we get to two and want three but ....Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-30262253139298753822007-07-19T12:25:00.000-06:002007-07-19T12:25:00.000-06:00I know what you mean, Mayberry. Very much so. I wa...I know what you mean, Mayberry. Very much so. I waffle back and forth between being done -- like dinner -- and wanting another one really really bad. Dave, I think, is done, and that's a tough pill to swallow.mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-75971757627052029102007-07-19T12:12:00.000-06:002007-07-19T12:12:00.000-06:00Your point about the privilege and blessing of par...Your point about the privilege and blessing of parenthood has clearly scored a direct hit on many of us. I hope I try to focus on that more.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry that you and he are not united together on this. I'm glad you're struggling to be united. I'm sorry that you'll be the one to accept having two rather than him being the one to accept three.<BR/><BR/>I was in your situation. Fate intervened. Our third caused a two-year rift in our marriage. All is wonderful now, but it could have gone either way.<BR/><BR/>All my good vibes to you on this.Patois42https://www.blogger.com/profile/07764936858778730692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-15638819054264707012007-07-19T02:34:00.000-06:002007-07-19T02:34:00.000-06:00Oh honey. I feel for your want, and thank you for...Oh honey. I feel for your want, and thank you for the expression of the blessing of being a parent.Lady Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13360693450146358247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-79129433983031249592007-07-18T23:58:00.000-06:002007-07-18T23:58:00.000-06:00For different reasons, I get the envious twinges w...For different reasons, I get the envious twinges when I hear about a pregnancy. It is natural, and as you say, does not diminish the joy we feel as well.nonlineargirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-69761571149292564302007-07-18T23:32:00.000-06:002007-07-18T23:32:00.000-06:00Wow.I read this post to my husband & we talked abo...Wow.<BR/><BR/>I read this post to my husband & we talked about 'a third' for about half an hour... Thanks, as the others said, for the reminder that parenting is more than just work.Jennifer (ponderosa)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17712875613623664156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-40868622950378213402007-07-18T19:34:00.000-06:002007-07-18T19:34:00.000-06:00It's so hard when both parents are on different pa...It's so hard when both parents are on different pages about this. I am feeling unexpected pangs for a third child, and I'm pretty sure my husband is not. <BR/><BR/>I hope that you can find peace.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17358441701832129130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-12224220621236015632007-07-18T19:24:00.000-06:002007-07-18T19:24:00.000-06:00I understand completely. My husband looks upon par...I understand completely. My husband looks upon parenting the same way as yours does. I wonder if it happens often with the male species. My husband is also 15 years older than me and came into our relationship with two sons that were already teenagers. Thank GOD he loves me enough that he knew having children was important to me. One led to two and then he said he was DONE. Then I convinced him "just one more." We are actively tryong for the "just one more" now. He also supports my wish to become a surrogate after we are done with our own. <BR/><BR/>It's funny though he complains about the day to day parenting stuff, but he just LOVES to tell people we are trying again. It's like he get a big kick out of all the "what are you insane" replies. LOL!Jeniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01307079683484637744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-51682204114564536102007-07-18T17:41:00.000-06:002007-07-18T17:41:00.000-06:00I get preggers-envy, too. Mostly because being pr...I get preggers-envy, too. Mostly because being pregnant was so much fun for me, and if I could have that magic again, I would be knocked up right now.kiridahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13124659092594167420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21720308.post-86326755007361919962007-07-18T14:45:00.000-06:002007-07-18T14:45:00.000-06:00Hmm. I agree on many points.Life is too crazy for ...Hmm. I agree on many points.<BR/><BR/>Life is too crazy for me right now to add a third, and yet I want one. Julie's news reinforced that for me.<BR/><BR/>And yet, we just moved from a 4 bedroom house to a 3. And gave away all our baby things in the process.<BR/><BR/>Our actions say we're done, but my heart says we're not.Kariannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12508403905884601778noreply@blogger.com